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20 things every college student should know about love and sex

September is just around the corner and for incoming freshmen college hookup culture can feel like a huge question mark with three options: have some one-night-stands, find the person you’re going to marry, or never kiss a soul.

While the social atmosphere is different at every school, love, sex and dating (and questions about all three) are a part of many students’ college experiences, right alongside being challenged academically and learning incredible new ways to think about the world.

Here are 20 things everyone should know about love, sex and dating in college:

1. It’s worth spending the time to find someone special. Don’t rush into having sex if you’re not ready or are just trying to “get it over with.”

2. Dance floor makeouts at parties can end as dance floor makeouts. They don’t have to go anywhere else.

3. If you have a roommate, be communicative with her or him about your needs including your need for privacy sometimes. And respect your roommate’s needs as well.

4. Anyone who pressures you into having sex is not someone you want to spend your time with.

5. Be vocal about your wants and needs because your sexual satisfaction matters.

6. Dating should be a fun learning experience where you learn things both about yourself and what you want in a partner.

7. If you decide to date someone, remember to make friends on your own in addition to the ones you share as a couple. A relationship is always better when you have a life outside of it.

8. It’s OK to take things slow.

9. It’s also OK to take things “fast.” It’s all about what you want and need.

10. You’re not a loser if you don’t leave the party with someone. Sometimes going home and watching TV in bed alone is 100 times better.

11. Talk to someone if you have a sexual encounter that makes you feel uncomfortable.

12. Not having a serious romantic relationship during college is totally fine.

14. Having one is great, too.

15. If you’re curious about threesomes or other non-traditional forms of intimacy, college is the perfect time to experiment in a safe way.

16. Take care of yourself. Don’t feel awkward about going to the doctor for birth control or getting tested for an STI. It’s all part of owning your body.

17. Sex is supposed to be fun. If it stops being fun with someone, stop doing it.

18. It’s totally OK to enter college a virgin. It’s totally OK to leave college a virgin. Your decisions are your own – you don’t need to answer to anyone else.

19. Always use protection. You’ll be glad you did.

20. You don’t have to have sex with someone to make them like you. And if you think someone won’t like you just because you don’t want to have sex, then you should probably rethink liking them.