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Akothee classifies co-parents who deny each other their kids ‘a pandemic’

By Winnie Mabel February 22nd, 2023 2 min read

Kenyan singer Esther Akoth, popularly known as Akothee and brands herself as the ‘President of Single Mothers’, categorized co-parents who deny each other access to their children as a pandemic.

The Oxford Dictionary defines a pandemic as a ‘widespread occurrence of an infectious disease over a whole country or the world at a particular time.’

According to Akothee, it was immoral for parents to drag their children into their fights and use them as weapons against each other.

She defined this as a signal that the parent denying their co-parent the children was still hurting and needed to move on.

“If there is anything that hurts me most, is when full grown couples drag children into their disagreements. Its not even the child they want nor the upkeep, its called the selfish spirit of the unknown where you think your partner is happy without you and you never want them to move on. With this kind of spirit, you will end up ruining if not your children’s life but also your own life. You will become toxic to every new person you meet hence all your upcoming relationships won’t hold water because you still holding onto your baby mama/ baby daddy.

The love you shared is gone, the children will remain. No sane mother/father will deny her/his children from having the freedom of enjoying both parents. This comes with unnecessary malicious damaging dramas for nothing. It hurts that we are ruining our children’s lives raising bitter generations and its being inherited to the next generations. I think governments should come up with strict rules on co-parenting with zero dramas and even arrest the parent causing drama. Children are not part of your disagreements. Your love, infatuation, commitments and fun moments are gone. Stop being a burden to each other. Let everyone find peace elsewhere.

In her advise to such parents, Akothee listed 10 things they should do and they include the avoiding of unnecessary demands upon each other, taking care of the children if they can afford it without having to depend on the co-parent and agreeing on terms of visitation. She also mentioned open communication between the co-parents as being paramount especially in alerting each other that neither of them is interested in drama or negative discussions; and should also limit their communication and attachment to shared friends who fuel gossip between them.

“Don’t stalk him / her on social media, block anyone bringing info’s from both ends, allow your children access their parents unless its getting ugly and only talk positive things about your co-parent. Alternatively, don’t mention them at all,” added Akothee.

She finally stated that co-parents should let their children find out for themselves who their parents really are and why they aren’t supporting them instead of either co-parent being a “transmitter.”

Akothee is a mother of five children by several baby daddies. For years, she has been taking care of her children single handedly until she began dating again a short while back. She recently suffered a miscarriage with her current boyfriend and are now planning their wedding.

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