Government official explains why men are killing their lovers

Mr Kennedy Buhere, the Head of Communications in the Ministry of Education, State Department of Early Learning and Basic Education, on Thursday, April 13, 2023, attempted to explain the differences in reactions between men of yesteryears and of today when their romantic relationships came to an end.

In his opinion, boys/men of yesteryears knew how to deal with love gone sour unlike some of today’s men who turned violent and even killed their lovers.

“Boys in the years gone by didn’t harm or kill their girlfriends or would-be girlfriends. They knew how to deal with ruptures in their relationships, unrequited love, or outright rejection of their overtures. But today, they just don’t harm; they kill. It’s not a mental illness. It’s poor socialization. An overly structured, predictable life, mostly sedentary at home and at school. Where everything is given,” began Mr Buhere.

He went on, “Things are not structured, predictable, or given outside an institutional context. There is no structure, predictability, and surety in life. Life is chaotic. It doesn’t owe you anything. Approach it with a stout heart. Resilience. Stoicism is the amniotic juice, the buffer zone against the storms in the heart as well as in life in general. And the fact is that where one door closes or refuses to open or close, there are other doors that open and close to ease exits and entrances. Shakespeare tells us”

“You ought to read Shakespeare. His comical as well as his tragic or serious plays. So don’t harm. Don’t kill. Walk away from a relationship that isn’t working. And you will find another relationship, probably more blissful and benighted than the current one. Ask your grandparents, ask your grandmother or grant fathers or friends 5 or 10 years older than you.”

His sentiment comes amid rising cases of lovers violently turning on each other, at times resulting in death. In several estates along Thika Road in Nairobi and Kiambu Counties, several cases emerged of relationship disagreements taking tragic twists as victims have been pushed out of high-rise building balconies. Among the cases that made news headlines included one from three days ago whereby a man and his cousin pushed his lover out of the second-floor balcony of their rented house in Kasarani.

Other cases that garnered national attention included the cases of the late Brenda Kawira who died after being pushed out of a fourth-floor balcony in Kasarani too and a husband attempting to throw his wife out of a fifth-floor window at GreatWall Apartments.

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