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Benjamin Zulu: Why married men should not have direct contact with house helps

Self-proclaimed life coach and counseling psychologist Benjamin Zulu says there should be boundaries between married men and their house helps.

Speaking on Citizen TV, Zulu said it should be the work of the wives to handle matters related to house helps as they have the ‘power to hire and fire’ them.

“A house help should be the wife’s assistant and not the husband because the wife is the one with the power to hire and fire. She should be the one to give instructions on the house chores to be done,” he said.

Zulu said the man of the house should not engage in direct relations with the house helps as there would be no respect between them.

“There should be no direct interaction with the man of the house because of the authority he holds in a home and there should be a certain distance of respect,” he reiterated. Zulu also said that couples should assist their house helps if they show an interest in improving themselves.

“Being a house help is nobody’s dream job. Life circumstances cause them to look for such jobs and they are using it as an avenue to step to their next level. Do not restrain them. If they want to go to college help them. Someone who has a vision to move forward will help you.”

Best known to give insightful relationship advice, Zulu has attracted as much love as hate for dishing out blunt remarks about relationships, women, men and marriage.

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Earlier this year, the life coach received some backlash for remarks he made about women who are comfortable being side chics and yet claim to be Christians.

“You cannot claim to be a Christian yet you are a side chick,” said Zulu.

Having built a name for himself through advising couples, Zulu reiterated that fornication and faith cannot mix.

Through a post on social media, he recalled one incident where a lady confessed to falling out with a sponsor and started praying to God for another one.

“Who bewitched this generation? They’re going to church on Sundays while leaving men who they’re not married to in their houses. They’re giving money in the church from selling their bodies to other women’s husbands,” read a part of his post.

“They’re ‘pushing’ with men and when they get babies and are abandoned they start questioning why God ‘allowed them to go through all that.’ As if they consulted God about any of it,” he added.

Zulu went ahead to quote a verse in the Bible that speaks to those who honour God with their mouths but their deeds send out a different message.