Confidence – The subtle art of faking it
We’ve all struggled with self-esteem at some point in our lives, and if there’s anything one can attest to is that it takes more than daily affirmations to get comfortable in your own skin.
When we look at the majority of world superstars and prominent leaders we look up to for their boldness and confidence, you’d almost be convinced that they’re alien as they portray a level of coolness that is simply insurmountable.
What is almost impossible to believe is that they built this confidence all by themselves. How did they program themselves to look so calm and collected regardless of the circumstances at hand? Because they’re also human, which only means they must have somehow mastered the art. Just like any other form of art, they took their time to mold this personality trait and eventually mastered it.
One secret I’ve come to learn about confidence is that you simply have to get rid of the thought that people care about you and what you do. Sorry to break it to you, but they don’t. Everyone is too focused on their own journey that they don’t have time to care much about what is going on with you, much less about how you act, walk, or talk. Drop the thought of people caring about what you’re doing, and you’ll discover a level of freedom you have never thought would be possible.
When it comes to confidence, it’s more about how you see yourself, than how others see you. You feel what you think. You become what you think. You control your mind. Friend, you have to fool yourself to be confident. The good thing about confidence is that nobody knows if it’s real or not. Fake it till you make it. Make it a habit to see yourself in the mirror of the person you admire the most. See yourself as you wish to seem to other people, and without much effort, you manifest that version of yourself.
You have to continuously tell yourself that you are powerful, intelligent, and good-looking. You have to keep on telling yourself this until, and unless you feel powerful and confident about yourself.
The root cause of low confidence is seeing others more superior to yourself. You compare your weaknesses to their strengths, and that’s where you lose that fight. You feel inferior because you think others are better than you. And that snatches away your confidence from you.
One thing you need to learn if you want to be confident is never to consider others superior to you. Treating every human equally is the key to confidence.
Walking on a road? Keep your head high like you are the king of that area. About to give a speech? Your listeners are humans just like you. Chill. They are not going to eat you if you make mistakes.
Appearing for an interview? Your interviewer is a human being just like you and he pooped today morning like you.
No matter how many books you read or videos you watch or seminars you attend for boosting your confidence, until and unless you change your thought process, you will never ever feel confident about yourself. it’s all about action.