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Eight sex myths that are ruining your love life


Sometimes your relationship suffers because of things you do or things you fail to do. Sometimes though, the source of your relationship woes is the things that you believe. Are your beliefs about sex hurting your relationship? Read on to find out.

1. Men want sex all the time – This is untrue and it can be very damaging to a relationship. Just like women, men have periods of high and low libido. A woman who believes this myth will be most likely unsatisfied with her man’s performance. The man who believes on the other hand might be continually beating himself up.

2. All physical contact should lead to sex – Again, this is untrue. People who believe this myth end up missing out on all other forms of intimacy that do not include sex like kissing and cuddling.

3. A man should always be in charge – The truth is that a woman can do just as good as a man when she is in charge in the bedroom. Believing this myth limits you. It makes the woman dormant in the bedroom something which can be very off putting for a man.

4. It should be great every time – The truth is that sex can’t be great each and every time. Even between the best matched couple, there are times that it is below average. This doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with the relationship. It is natural.

5. Orgasm is the only goal – This is a common misconception that a lot of people have towards sex. When one of the partners does not achieve an orgasm then it is taken to mean that something is wrong with a relationship. This strain is unnecessary. The main goal during sex should be to attain pleasure.

6. It is okay to fake an orgasm – We all know that a lot of women fake orgasms. This doesn’t mean that it is okay to do it. You may be faking an orgasm with the best of intentions but when you do, you are doing your relationship a disservice. You are taking from your man the chance to really get to please you.

7. Sex should be spontaneous – While it is true that spontaneous sex can be very thrilling, it is also true that sex doesn’t need to be spontaneous to be good. That couple with very busy schedules can plan their sex lives and still immensely enjoy it. This myth should be thrown out the window.

8. If a relationship is good, good sex should be automatic – This is untrue. Regardless of the state of the relationship, a good sex life takes a lot of effort from both parties. A person that believes otherwise might just lose their relationship as a result.