Nairobi News

Mombasa-based actor Dan Sonko has, for the first time, talked about his breakup with now ex-lover actress Bwire Ndubi.

In an exclusive interview with Nairobi News, the father of two revealed the plan to welcome a baby girl and name her Diamond in 2023.

“We are dreamers and we had also dreamt up a plot and designed the house and we had like a blueprint of how we wanted our dreamhouse to look like,” Dan said.

Dan Sonko recounts how 2023 kicked off with promising developments and positive energy but as fate would have it, his dream to spend the rest of his life with Bwire hit a wall.  This was after she was diagnosed with Cancer.

As the year commenced with promising developments and positive energy, fate intervened, casting a shadow over Sonko and Ndubi’s aspirations.

Sonko recounted the heart-wrenching discovery of Ndubi’s diagnosis with Ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS), a rare form of breast cancer.

“I ended the relationship, first for Bwire and me and her did it for the kids because we did not want a scenario where we would get so far trying to fight this thing,” he candidly explained.

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Dan Sonko’s wife Dru died in 2017, days after giving birth to their second-born child.

Faced with the prospect of losing a second wife, Sonko says he made the difficult decision to call off their relationship, prioritizing the well-being of his children and his mental health.

“Kids have a different way of understanding death. I didn’t want them to go that direction. Not like we are saying that she is dying, but just that risk factor.”

The couple treated the separation as a “break,” a period for self-discovery and personal growth.

“She was going through something and I was also going through something.

I had some personal struggles because of her journey. For me, I was seeing death. I had questions, and I was asking God, this is number two, you want to take away from me, kwani what is going on? It affected me physically and mentally, and it was a strain.”

Sonko acknowledges the challenges of being a caregiver and the toll it took on him, both physically and mentally.

“Being a caregiver is nothing easy. I gave everything I could but at the same time, I was losing myself and at the same time, she needed a strong person at that time. The only strong people who were there apart from myself who was trying, were her friends and family. My family was very supportive but the central caregiver at that point was me, but I was breaking.”

He says the two remain on good terms despite parting ways romantically and share a deep friendship.

“Part of that fear, I extended it to my kids and I was thinking about them. I have gone through a journey of grief and they have gone through the same and I did not want them to go through a second on,” he shared.

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Bwire and Dan have channeled their experiences into a documentary titled ‘Scare the Scar,’ addressing real-life challenges and difficult conversations.

Bwire Ndubi, best known for her role on the Kenyan drama Sultana, asked for support from her fans to help with her medical treatment in December.

Bwire has been battling metastatic breast cancer for two years.

Posting the appeal on her Instagram, she said she needed a KSh. 7 million fund to continue her treatment abroad.