Gospel Singer Kambua opens up on coping with grief
Renowned gospel singer Kambua has candidly shared her experiences of dealing with grief following the loss of her father in 2014 and the heartbreaking loss of her son Malakai seven years later.
Reflecting on her journey, Kambua spoke to Sharon K Mwangi about the profound impact of grief on her life and the lessons she learned along the way.
She expressed how grief became an undeniable presence when she lost her father in 2014, marking her first encounter with the overwhelming emotions and challenges that accompany such a loss.
Then, in 2021, tragedy struck again as she lost her beloved son Malakai.
“When my dad passed away, I felt numb. I was going through the motions, and that numbness was God’s way of carrying me through the ordeal. Looking back, I realize that if God hadn’t allowed me to experience that numbness, I don’t know how I would have made it,” Kambua revealed.
With each passing day, the heaviness of grief lessened, although she still shed many tears during that period of her life.
Kambua described the feeling of numbness resurfacing when she lost her son Malakai.
She recalled waking up in the middle of the night and confiding in her husband about the immense weight she felt on her heart, as if rocks were piled upon it.
“It was heaviness that I could not describe, only those who have experienced such loss can truly understand,” she said.
During these difficult times, Kambua relied on the grace of God to carry her through, finding solace in the support of her loved ones.
She shared that small acts of kindness, like holding the baby or bringing hot meals, meant the world to anyone going through grief.
However, she also expressed her frustration with certain responses from people who struggled to comprehend her pain.
Kambua highlighted the importance of empathy when comforting someone who is grieving, urging people to refrain from telling them that “it is well” because, in that moment, it is not.
Instead, she suggested offering words of reassurance, acknowledging their pain while providing support and understanding.
The singer also revealed that she blocks people who make insensitive comments or fail to understand her grief.
She emphasized the significance of actions over empty promises, encouraging friends and family to actively engage in tangible ways to support those who are grieving, such as helping with daily tasks and offering gentle reminders to take care of themselves.
“Those people who tell others that, “call me if you need someone to talk to” because I won’t call you. Do somethings for them like holding the baby, bring hot meals and remind them to take shower.
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