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How husbands destroy marriages while wives try to save them- Pastor explains

By Winnie Mabel January 18th, 2024 2 min read

They say marriage is a learning institution where you are first given the ‘graduation’ certificate from singlehood to matrimony; and then you begin learning the lessons.

Entering into marriage marks the symbolic shedding of singlehood as two individuals embark on the journey of merging their lives, for how long, only God knows.

The Bible, in Ephesians 5:31-32 states, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.”

Meaning, that a married couple must get on the same page. There will be no bachelor-behaving husband or single-and-searching wife in the marriage because each partner continues to lead their lives separately apart from their identities as married people.

And marriage is not a bed of roses, it takes work- love, constant forgiveness, gracing your spouse and being empathetic among others.

It can be sweet in the beginning but turns too thorny to breathe. Arguments begin arising because of communication and trust issues, financial stress, household responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy and emotional needs, in-laws, and other external problems.

Now, in many households, wives are wired to first want to make peace in the event arguments arise and the home becomes a hotbed of drama.

But then, no matter their efforts, some husbands remain bullheaded and do not want to meet their wives halfway so that the problems can be solved and harmonious homes prevail.

In explanation, South African Pastor Rick Netshiozwi revealed why this occurs and marriages end up suffering because husbands do not want to listen to reason at the end of the day.

“Do you know why a lot of marriages are unsolvable? And that is because the husband sometimes can look at the wife’s opinion as useless.

And when the opinion that the wife has is actually the right one to actually solve the union, you find the man busy sitting out there wanting his ill-conceived solutions- his solutions that are born from pride and from a heart of no love to take precedence.

And he ends up killing the union by not taking the opinion or the advice that the woman has given- which was the one that God had ordained. Such is a fallacy in the area of marriage.

The solution is not about pride or who brought it, it is about it being implemented to solve the union,” said Pastor Netshiozwi.

Many of his TikTok followers agreed with his position, others stating this situation is more common in homes where husbands are the breadwinners and the wife is a stay-at-home wife/mother.

Many women claimed they mind the business that pays them and if their husbands behaved in such manners, they would let them be and go about silently building their own lives apart from the marriage as a plan b.

“This truth hits very hard. Had I listened to my wife on many occasions, 90% of the problems we are in could have been avoided,” confessed Prophet David Immortal.

“I was once married to someone who never listened or took my opinion unless I ask someone else to bring it up,” added Pisces.

“The husband rather listen to his mom/friend/cousin than his wife. smh,” opined a user.