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Muthoni Mukiri: Ladies, it is not your boyfriend’s role to give you money

By Elizabeth Ngigi September 27th, 2023 2 min read

Media personality and life coach Muthoni Wa Mukiri has shared valuable insights on the importance of financial independence for women in the dating world.

The former news anchor emphasized that personal finances should not become a boyfriend’s financial obligation.

In a recent candid discussion on her TikTok, Muthoni expressed her perspective on the concept of women seeking financial support from their partners, highlighting that such requests could sometimes reflect a sense of entitlement and unrealistic expectations.

Muthoni, a mother of one, highlighted the potential pitfalls of expecting a boyfriend’s financial support to cover one’s needs.

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She emphasized that while it’s not inherently wrong to seek assistance, it is crucial not to assume that a boyfriend automatically owes financial support.

“The problem is not you asking him, the problem is being entitled. The problem is thinking he owes you money. It’s not your boyfriend’s role to take care of you financially unless he actually wants to and volunteers to. But, it is not his primary work.”

Muthoni suggested that women can approach their partners for financial assistance without demanding or expecting it as a right.

“He does not owe you money. If a man is giving you everything, especially in dating, they can also treat you very badly. Because they are thinking they can give you something that you cannot give yourself,” she added.

Drawing from real-life experiences, Muthoni recounted an incident where her friend was confronted by a woman who urgently requested money and subsequently felt offended when he made an equally urgent request for intimacy.

This anecdote, she said underlined the potential complications that can arise when financial expectations are not communicated clearly or are based on entitlement.

Muthoni concluded her message by advising individuals to approach their partners with requests for support as they would with a friend, devoid of any sense of entitlement.

She acknowledged that everyone may require assistance from time to time, and seeking help should not be stigmatized.

“You can approach him as you would a friend without entitlement. We all need support from time to time and it’s okay to ask for support but just know entitlement and unrealistic expectations are what will disappoint you,” she noted.

Muthoni said that her advice is not limited to any particular gender.