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STUDY: Saying ‘I love you’ makes sex better

Findings of an interesting new study suggest that when you say ‘I love you’ to your partner, it leads to a more fulfilling experience. Other significant contributors to sexual fulfilment were found to be fore play and wearing sexy lingerie to bed.

The study was set up by researchers from Chapman University in the US in a bid to examine the things that makes for a fulfilling long-term sexual relationship.

The study looked into and questioned 39,000 couples who were either married or had been co-habiting with their partners for at least three years. The average age for the women who participated in the study was 40 whilst that one for the men was 46.

The findings showed that the most satisfied couples were those who engaged in intimate behavior. Up to 75 percent of the men in the satisfied group reported having said ‘I love you’ during sex. 74 percent of women in a similar group also admitted having said the three words during sex. This is a sharp contrast to only 49 percent of men and d 44 percent of women in the dissatisfied group.


Half of the both the dissatisfied and the satisfied couples also reported having read self-help books on sex. Those who gained from it were found to be those who actually tried the things that they read.

Communication in bed was also found to significantly contribute to partner satisfaction. Things that were found to help were complimenting your partner for something that they did in bed or speaking out and telling them what you want.

Emailing each other during the day or calling each other also led couples to have fulfilling sexual experiences later on. Laughing about funny things that happened during sex was also fund to be a way of making the experience enjoyable and fulfilling.

Interestingly, couples revealed that they stopped having sex after the first few years of their relationship. In fact, a whopping 83 percent of the study respondents reported being satisfied in the first six months of their relationship. This figure dropped to 43 percent thereafter.