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Why red flags are ignored in relationships

By Winnie Onyando September 20th, 2023 2 min read

Relationship challenges appear to be a source of frustration for numerous residents of Nairobi and Kenya.

As such, popular songs revolve around matters of the heart, mourning and lamenting about one issue of the other.

Social media platforms have become outlets for venting about love related issues.

There is a constant stream of relationship advice offered through various media outlets and on social platforms, but despite this guidance, many individuals still find themselves entangled in toxic relationships.

Many have shared painful heartbreaking stories of what their partners did to them.

In the past, women used to express their grievances, labeling certain men as toxic and using derogatory terms.

However, it seems the situation has shifted, and women can also exhibit toxic behaviors, much like some men.

Social media skits have shed light on how some women can be dangerously manipulative, challenging the notion that cheating is solely a male behavior.

People who have experienced heartbreak or personal losses can acknowledge having seen warning signs in their relationships, but most of them chose to overlook these signals or held onto the hope that their partners would change over time.

Many individuals, especially women, claim they cannot leave their partners because they are deeply in love and believe that nobody else could love them. Some have found themselves stuck in relationships with narcissists who have drained the life out of them, despite seeking relationship advice.

Some millennials’ parents prioritized conducting thorough background checks on their children’s potential spouses, interrogating their children for any toxic behavior; there were even warnings against marrying certain individuals from specific households. However, clandestine love affairs between two individuals have caused issues for many people.

A significant number of young people fail to verify or disclose their relationships to their parents until it’s too late.

They often only introduce their partners once they’ve made up their minds, seeking parental approval.

Many do not discuss their partners’ traits with their parents, choosing instead to conceal their pain in the hope that things will improve after marriage. Some only open up when it’s too late to resolve the issues.

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