Nairobi News

Most breakups end in premium tears, ugly spats, heavy insults, and revenge plotting.

But there are more mature couples out there who know that the end of a relationship does not need the bridge to be burned.

They can see themselves in each others’ lives beyond romantic links. They see potential friendship, business networking as well as helping each other grow in their individual lives even if it won’t be something they will actively seek to do for each other.

And so they proceed to break up in a decent approach, bordering on classy. Nairobi News brings you five approaches you can break up with your partner- if, like the couple above,  you can see each other interacting beyond romantic links:

1. Personalized letter- If you are the type who does not know how to express yourself, a personalized letter may work for you. Here, you may explain your experience in the relationship, what you valued most, what you felt went wrong, and why you don’t think you are ready to remain in the relationship any longer. In this letter, you will have leeway to choose words carefully and be considerate of your soon-to-be ex’s feelings. Remember to be gentle in your letter and allow for space for further communication to give better closure.
2. Giving a functional goodbye gift- If you are parting on good terms, a gift may work. This will be a sign your ex can hold on to in order to confirm that indeed the relationship is over and closure was given. You can give gifts they can use in their daily lives or have sentimental value attached to it from a time when you were both happy in the relationship.
3. Instead of involving family and friends in the break up, you can chose to contact a professional mediator who can help the both of you navigate the break up phase. This neutral mediator can also help you separate any joint properties and finances you had so that no party leaves the relationship aggrieved.
4. Break-up vacation- As weird and expensive as it sounds. This is another classy method of breaking up without much drama. Vacations tend to be quiet, uninterrupted, and calm. During this vacation, you can both have an open conversation about the relationship and jointly come to understand why it needs to come to an end. You will have the privacy and space to sort out the matters that need to be sorted without others chiming in with unsolicited advice and recriminations.