City family still recovering after drunk driver killed all their kids
“Just take a right turn on the track ahead,” the man we ask for directions to the Kibugi home tells us. “You will see smoke on your way down the trail. That’s their gate, right where the smoke is. That’s Mama Njeri’s house?”
And sure enough, we see a smouldering fire near the gate as we approach the home. The smoke swirling gently from the flameless heap of ashes and twigs prepares us for the stillness in the compound.
A huge pile of utensils, including huge cooking pans, has been left out to dry. Meanwhile, some people are loading the chairs and tents used during the 10-day vigil for the Kibugis’ departed onto a pickup.
EMPTINESS IN THE HOME
It is the day after the burial of Hanna Wariara Kibugi’s three children and grandchild, and the mourners have left. Hannah is distraught about the emptiness in the home.
“It is abnormally quiet and still,” she says, “All my four babies are gone.”
It is around 4:30pm on a Friday when we visit for the interview.
“We would now be waiting for the kids to be dropped by the school bus. And then the noise would begin, she says. “Njoki would be finishing with the cooking. They always found food ready when they arrived home from school.
“Now the house is empty and quiet. The bedrooms are empty. Their clothes are just there, still hanging in the closets,” says a distressed Wariara.
Hannah and her husband, Peter Kibugi, lost all their three children and a granddaughter in a horrific road accident on May 15, as the world marked the International Day of Families.
Their two daughters Josephine Njoki, 25, and Grace Njeri, 11 as well as their 9-year-old son, Mike Mutua and grand-daughter Hanna Wariaria (Njoki’s daughter) were buried on Thursday, May 26.
As their four coffins lay side by side at the Langata Cemetery in Nairobi, the grief was palpable, as friends and family gathered to pay their last respects.
At the time of the accident, Mr Kibugi was in Qatar in the Middles East where he works, when his phone rang at around 9.30 that night. A man who identified himself only as Nderitu, a watchman near the scene of the accident, read out the registration number of Hannah’s vehicle and asked him whether he recognised the car.
He said he did and asked Nderitu what the matter was. Nderitu told him that the car had been involved in a terrible accident with a lorry.
“I asked him how they [the occupants of the vehicle] were, whether there had been any fatalities but he just took me round in circles. He said they were waiting for an ambulance and the police,” Mr Kibugi says. Dissatisfied, he got off the phone and started calling relatives.
Mr Kibugi says he in shock that night, he did not sleep. It was something that Nderitu had said that was nagging him.
“He had said ‘Kibugi niue wi mundurume. No muhaka wiyumirerie.’ Which loosely translates to “Kibugi, you know you are a man. You must remain strong.’”
Mr Kibugi took the statement to mean there had been fatalities, and immediately started making plans to return home. Meanwhile, he spent the entire night trying to find out details about the accident. But no information was forthcoming, and family members were being evasive.
“My mother and mother-in-law kept me updated, but they were very pleasant the whole time. They said those who were in the car were in hospital and being taken care of, and that I should not worry,” he recalls.
On the third day his cousin called and told him, “We have to be realistic here. Now, I have to give you the news as it is.”
ALL KIDS DEAD
“And that is when he told me all the kids had died in the accident,” Mr Kibugi says.
He took emergency leave so that he could come back home and take care of things.
Similarly, Hannah, who is nursing multiple rib fractures and suffered bleeding in her lungs, did not know until four days later that all her children had perished in the accident.
“I could barely breathe when I was being rushed to Kenyatta National Hospital (KNH), and I think everybody believed that if they told me, I would get worse,” she says, “I constantly asked about the children and I was always assured they were okay, that they would be discharged, and that I should focus on regaining my health.”
However, she doubted this information and kept pestering the staff about her children’s condition. “From what I had seen of the car, I kept asking myself whether they were really still alive,” she says.
“Mike had been sitting in front next to me while my granddaughter was sitting behind in the middle, between Njoki and Njeri,” she recalls.
It was later that a counsellor at KNH prepared her and broke the news to her in the presence of some clerics and relatives.
“Whenthey told me what had happened I asked , ‘Please repeat what you have just said.’ I was in shock and disbelief,”
Hannah says initially, she was mad at the lorry driver but has been able to let go of her anger. “I kept wondering why someone would go and drink and then just come and crash into innocent people,” she says.
“They loved to do stuff with me because I always made them laugh. My son loved playing football,” Hannah lets off a distant smile and says, “he is the reason all the picture frames on the wall have no glass. He hit balls everywhere, including the sitting room. Mike often roared like lion. He loved wild animals but he loved the lion the most. And the girls…they loved to play with my hair. My granddaughter always barged into my room in the morning to get me out of bed.
“Being here alone…. entering all three empty bedrooms with our children’s things and clothes still hanging there ….you start thinking, ‘You mean they’re gone, that I’ll never see them again?’” Hannah says, shaking her head. “It is hard. We are grateful to all those who have prayed for us. Please keep us in your prayers. God bless.”
“We are very grateful to all the people who have been by our side but after the burial yesterday, there’s just the two of us,” her husband interjects.
Mr Kibugi, 46, says he thanks God that Hannah, 44, survived.
“Driving when you’re drunk is very dangerous. It has robbed us of all our children,” he says,“If you must drink, then please get a competent driver or a taxi to take you home. People must stop this issue of Gari inajua nyumbani (The car knows its way home). You endanger the lives of innocent people, as happened in this case,” he says.
“The driver of the lorry, Tim Johnson Mumo, 35, was drunk. In his state, he could not have been in control,” said Ruiru OCPD Isaac Thuranira. A test by the police showed that his blood alcohol content was 0.85 per cent above the legal limit.
Even after the accident he just continued dosing. He was taken to court in Thika the day after the accident and charged with four counts of causing death by dangerous driving, one count of impaired driving causing bodily harm, and driving under the influence of alcohol, among other charges, which he denied, His case will be heard on August 11.