Why it is logical for some men to move into their women’s houses
Traditionally, women were expected to move out of their parents’ homes and in with their husbands after getting married. This was the ideal for decades but with time- especially in the 21st century- this line of thought flew out the window alongside other ideas like women should still be virgins before their wedding nights.
Today, there is a growing group of women who have defied societal expectations, achieving financial independence and establishing their own homes without relying on their parents or a partner.
In these homes, women are buying quality, timeless furniture pieces that promise both style and durability, getting rid of the trend of frequent upgrades and being sustainable in their home décor. They curate their spaces with carefully selected furnishings designed to stand the test of time and taste, all in efforts to create havens of peace and comfort. And they are not shy about it if all the ‘living alone diaries’ on social media are anything to go by. Women are showing off their homes and they are a marvel.
And as they continue to settle down and in to live their lives, some men prioritize their careers, cars, technology, social circles and financial status over creating a comfortable home environment for themselves. Home making ‘is not for men’ in their books. Their focus on career advancement, acquiring luxury items and maintaining a thriving social life may lead to a neglect of their living spaces, viewing them merely as functional rather than spaces for relaxation and rejuvenation. They did not learn a thing from the pandemic years!
You will then find that some of these men find it appealing to turn to women who have established their own homes and are not struggling to maintain them. One way or the other, you find such men moving into their women’s homes. It becomes a logical move for them.
How?
This arrangement allows such men to enjoy the benefits of a well-kept living space without the effort and investment required to create one for themselves. Additionally, living with a partner who has a comfortable and inviting home can offer these men a sense of stability and security- they basically get to enhance the quality of their lives at the expense of such women.
To these men, gender roles mean nothing. Women are expected to either move in to their men’s houses or jointly get a new one together but for such men, choosing to move into a woman’s home is not a source of shame but a practical decision based on life’s circumstances such as she has more space in her house or she has their children and would be easier for him to join them at her house.
At the end of the day, if you are such a man who decides to move into their woman’s house, you must know there are expectations placed on you no matter how logical the decision is. You must know you will contribute to the household’s upkeep both financially and physically. You will not be a kept man in someone else’s house. You will also do your share in chores because you are not moving in to a maid’s house.
You must be ready to have some tough conversations about this living arrangement and tough skin to weather the harsh criticism that follows such occurrences.