Nairobi News

Healing from a broken heart can seem like an insurmountable task, especially for public figures who have to do it in the full glare of the spotlight.

But Carol Sonnie, a mother of one, has emerged as a beacon of resilience and strength after enduring a highly publicised split from comedian Mulamwah in 2021.

In an intimate interview with members of the online media, Sonnie bared her soul and revealed the arduous journey she had to take to find solace and happiness again.

Therapy was central to her healing journey. Now she has moved on and is focusing on her life and her child.

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“I have a kid joining school next year, so I have to start working hard, or I will suffer,” Sonnie shared candidly, highlighting the newfound responsibilities thrust upon her as a single mother.

The breakup with Mulamwah was marked by acrimony, with accusations of infidelity and paternity disputes looming large.

Despite the public fallout, Sonnie’s focus remained steadfast on her mental well-being and the well-being of her child. “I think I was focusing so much on the baby that I forgot myself,” she confessed, echoing the sentiments of many mothers who grapple with balancing personal needs and parental duties.

As Sonnie prepares for the next chapter of her life, amidst the whispers of judgment and the glare of public scrutiny, she offers an important reminder: healing is not just about moving on; it’s about reclaiming one’s sense of self and embracing the promise of a brighter tomorrow.

In a parting message, Sonnie cautioned against the superficial advances of suitors, declaring such gestures directed at her via her social media DMs as “insults to her integrity”.

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That said, healing after a nasty heartbreak can be a challenging journey, but there are steps one can take to navigate through the pain and find happiness again.

Here are 10 suggested steps for healing a broken heart.

1. Allow yourself to grieve: It’s essential to acknowledge and process your emotions. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, and disappointment that come with heartbreak. Suppressing emotions can prolong the healing process.

2. Seek support: Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can offer comfort and encouragement. Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help if needed, such as therapy or counselling. Talking to someone who understands can provide valuable perspective and validation.

3. Practice self-care: Focus on taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s exercising, meditating, spending time in nature, or pursuing a hobby. Prioritize self-compassion and kindness towards yourself.

4. Set boundaries: Establish boundaries with your ex-partner to create space for healing. This may involve limiting contact, unfollowing them on social media, or avoiding places that remind you of them. Boundaries are crucial for protecting your emotional well-being and fostering independence.

5. Reflect and learn: Take time to reflect on the relationship and the breakup. Identify any patterns or lessons learned that can help you grow personally and in future relationships. Practice forgiveness, both towards your ex-partner and yourself, to release resentment and find closure.

6. Focus on personal growth: Use this time as an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. Set goals for yourself and pursue activities that align with your values and interests. Rediscover your passions, cultivate new skills, and invest in your personal development.

7. Build a strong support network: Surround yourself with positive influences and people who uplift you. Cultivate meaningful connections with friends, family, and community groups. Sharing your experiences and receiving support from others can facilitate healing and boost your mood.

8. Practice gratitude: Cultivate a mindset of gratitude by focusing on the positive aspects of your life. Keep a gratitude journal or simply take a moment each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for. Gratitude can shift your perspective and increase feelings of contentment and happiness.

9. Embrace new experiences: Step out of your comfort zone and embrace new opportunities for growth and adventure. Whether it’s travelling to new destinations, trying new hobbies, or meeting new people, opening yourself up to new experiences can invigorate your spirit and broaden your horizons.

10. Give yourself time: Healing from heartbreak takes time, and it’s essential to be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to heal at your own pace and don’t rush the process. Remember that healing is a journey, and with time, you will emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before.