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Beauty and the beast: Why Nairobi women like ‘medium-ugly’ men

By Mercy Simiyu January 30th, 2023 2 min read

If you ask 50 percent of women in a relationship now to describe their ideal type of a man, trust me their partners don’t fit into the quota.

You will never miss an ‘I love me some tall, dark and handsome’ in every girls’ group chat. However, the narrative has changed to ‘I like mine medium-ugly.’

Now, Nairobi women love men with faces that only mothers would adore.


You ask.

Let’s start by looking at a list of stunning female celebrities and the men they marry or call “bae.”

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It is a beauty and the beast affair.

Does that convince you enough?

Okay, okay, I know the question on everyone’s mind is, is it large wallets or a longer leg?

Well, my dear readers, apparently, it all boils down to why medium-ugly guys are now all the rage.

Medium-ugly means you are too ugly for the fine lads but too fine for the ugly ones, you are medium-ugly – not cute, not ugly and not plain either.

In the ruthless world of the mating game, medium-ugly men instinctively know that being funny, smart or poetic helps to compensate for a less-than-perfect visage.

In my own experience in the dating arena, I know for a fact that I don’t find “hot” men attractive.

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Let me clarify why. I find them pleasing to the eye and often quite tempting, but I don’t find myself actually attracted to them. And here I have to admit that I am undoubtedly judging the book by its covers, but I have yet to find the exception to the rule.

Marya Sindani, 20, says most medium-ugly men have got game. Other aspects like personality, that appendage you are thinking about, and the size of the wallet are added advantages.

“I usually like them because overly attractive men are annoying to me. They’re always dramatic and spend too much time trying to make sure they look good. It gets annoying. They’re also usually unfunny,” she said.

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She continued, “All I dated were “pretty” boys and guys who were popular. Through heart break and being cheated on, I started to feel like semi-ugly or ugly guys who dressed nice and had money were a better option.”

“After all, I hold the belief that I won’t be cheated on if I’m the only real fine one in the relationship,” she added.

Less attractive men get a big boost in popularity if they show a creative touch.

“Medium-ugly men are hardworking, and they will spoil you to death with money, compared to the’hot’ ones who do not spoil you and will send you to depression with well orchestrated character development,” said Jacintah Wairima, Nairobi resident.

Although dating medium-ugly guys is slowly becoming a trend, some say it is a scam, and his being ugly doesn’t mean he’ll be a nicer person.

“There’s no guarantee with men. Go for what you want ultimately instead of trying to compromise yourself from the beginning,” said Joy Chebet.

So if you’re medium-ugly, remember that cockiness and money will get you everywhere with the ladies.

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