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Here’s how your ‘Friends-With-Benefits’ will work

Casual dating is a term that resonates so deeply with Gen Zs and Millennials in this era. But what actually seems to be more prevalent is the culture of ‘Friends with benefits’.

Friends with benefits, otherwise referred to as FWBs are relationships that offer an illusion of a committed romantic relationship, but without the baggage. Nobody wants baggage nowadays and that’s what committed relationships come with, hence, Friends with benefits. All benefits, no obligation, or any sort of responsibility. 

This form of casual dating can be a lot of fun at first, up until someone catches feelings and things get complicated. And unfortunately, the platonic friendship that once existed cannot be revived or saved. What now after that? 

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Many GenZers and millennials have warmly embraced this culture without many complications, but if we’re being honest, many such kind of relationships face the ugly side of things where emotions get in the way. So, since it isn’t quite possible to convince the majority of the people who don’t want commitment but still want to enjoy some good ol’ sex every now and then to avoid having friends with benefits, in this article, we look at ways such relationships can thrive long term without complications. 

If you’re considering diving into this type of arrangement, it’s essential to set some ground rules and understand how it works to ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience. Here are the ins and outs of FWB relationships.

Communication is key 

The foundation of any successful friends-with-benefits relationship is clear and open communication. You need to be on the same page about your expectations, boundaries, and what you both want from the relationship. Sit down and have an honest conversation about what you’re comfortable with, what you’re not, and what your goals are.

Keep it casual 

One of the beautiful aspects of an FWB relationship is its casual nature. There’s no need for grand romantic gestures or elaborate date nights. Instead, enjoy each other’s company in a relaxed, no-pressure environment. Remember, the goal is to have fun and fulfill each other’s needs without the complications of a traditional relationship.

Boundaries are crucial

Setting boundaries is essential to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Decide how often you’ll see each other, whether you’ll date other people, and what happens if one of you develops deeper feelings. These boundaries will help maintain the clarity and simplicity of the relationship.

Respect and honesty

Treat your FWB partner with respect and honesty. If something isn’t working for you or you’ve had a change of heart, communicate your feelings honestly. It’s essential to prioritize each other’s emotional well-being throughout the arrangement.

Regular check-ins

Keep the lines of communication open by regularly checking in with your FWB partner. This can help ensure that you’re both still on the same page and that any concerns or issues can be addressed promptly.

Emotions may arise

While the goal of an FWB relationship is to keep it light and casual, emotions can sometimes sneak in. It’s okay if this happens, but it’s important to address these feelings openly and honestly with your partner. Decide together whether you want to continue the FWB relationship or reassess your arrangement.

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