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By definition, a narcissist is a person who exhibits narcissistic personality traits or has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)-  a mental health condition characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a constant need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. Such people often have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and tend to manipulate others for their own advantage and desires.

In many relationships, the word narcissist is always thrown around especially when partners who were in a romantic relationship fall out. Insults and break up conversations often revolve around how someone did not realize in time they had been dating a narcissist and how they would have wished they noticed the red flags earlier.

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Well, if you are about to enter a relationship or are about to take your current romantic relationship to the next step such as opening a joint bank account, moving in together, having a baby or even trying the know, here are 9 narcissistic traits you must take note off and carefully analyze and reflect whether your partner exhibits them:

1. They exaggerate their importance in every situation, making themselves appear bigger and better than those around them even when they are not.
2. They are quick to gaslight people especially if their opinions and life’s experiences are better than theirs- they will often tell those they feel are inferior to them that they are wrong and make fun of them to feel better about themselves.
3. They feel entitled to other people’s attention and admiration, and when they are not granted this, they pout and make situations uncomfortable for everyone around them.
4. They exploit others to achieve their own goals without regarding the other party’s feelings, well-being or the outcome of their narc moves.
5. They are arrogant and look down on people they perceive to be of lower value to society than they are.
6. They easily get jealous of people who are doing better than they are and will proceed to badmouth them unprovoked.
7. They cannot empathize with other people in the society. They do not care about the feelings and positions of others as long as it neither concerns nor interferes with their lives.
8. They are always on the defense when their lives and life choices are questioned.
9. They never apologize for their bad behaviors and will always find a way of making themselves appear to be the victims.