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The Millennial: Stop settling for undefined relationships

Love is a tricky dynamic to navigate, and there exists a common yet insidious trap that many fall into. Compromising before exclusivity. 

We often find ourselves bending over backwards, sacrificing our own needs and desires, for someone who hasn’t made their intentions clear.

However, this pattern of premature compromise can be detrimental to our mental health and overall well-being.

How do you know when to walk away from a potential heartbreak? When do you call it quits on someone who supposedly likes or wants you but is not willing to commit to you? How do you stop compromising for someone who is not yours? 

Many times you will hear people complaining just how they have been investing a lot of time, money, and resources in someone who has no possible intention of either reciprocating or at the very least showing mutual interest and direction, yet they are the ones who keep enabling them to take advantage. 

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You find that in most cases, more women fall victim to these ‘situationships’ than men as they tend to catch feelings faster. Women are naturally created to receive love and the moment a man shows interest, she will be hooked and want to fight for a possible future with this man despite the low effort, inconsistency, and a lack of commitment. They hope that eventually, he will follow through. 

When we commit ourselves to someone who hasn’t reciprocated that commitment, we inadvertently expose our hearts to potential heartbreak and disappointment. By investing our time, emotions, and energy into a relationship that hasn’t been solidified, we leave ourselves vulnerable and open to unfulfilled expectations. The constant uncertainty can take a toll on our mental health, causing stress, anxiety, and even depression.

The first step towards breaking this cycle of premature compromise is recognizing the need for clarity. It’s crucial to communicate openly and honestly with the person you’re involved with, expressing your desire for a committed relationship. By having these conversations, you not only establish your own boundaries but also provide an opportunity for the other person to express their intentions clearly.

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In any relationship, it’s essential to prioritize your own well-being. This means setting healthy boundaries and not compromising on your core values and needs. While it may feel challenging to say “no” or stand up for yourself, remember that self-respect is the foundation of any healthy partnership. By valuing yourself and your worth, you increase the chances of attracting a person who appreciates and reciprocates your commitment.

When we focus solely on someone who hasn’t made their intentions clear, we neglect our own personal growth and development. Take this time to invest in yourself. Pursue your passions, explore new hobbies, and spend time with friends and family.

Rediscover the joy and fulfillment that can come from nourishing your own dreams and aspirations. By doing so, you’ll not only strengthen your sense of self but also attract partners who appreciate your individuality.

Self-love is the key to breaking free from the pattern of premature compromise. Nurture a loving relationship with yourself by practicing self-care, affirming your worth, and prioritizing your happiness.

Celebrate your strengths, acknowledge your accomplishments, and treat yourself with kindness and compassion. The more you love yourself, the less likely you’ll be to settle for anything less than you deserve.

Respect yourself enough to walk away from something or someone that no longer serves you. 

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