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Why is it okay for a woman to be a virgin but not for a man?

Men have to be the most unlucky creatures on the planet.

Normally I wouldn’t say this because it rubs on their ego and unfairly elicits pity from women, but how is it okay for a woman to cry but not for a man? Why is it okay for a woman to be broke but not for a man? And why exactly is it okay for a woman to have more privileges in society than a man?

Now looking at sexual matters, it is okay for a woman to be a virgin but it isn’t for a man? Well, I’ll be damned.

But it’s funny how this standard was not set by women but by the men themselves. In their testosterone-filled circles, men acknowledge among themselves that it is not okay to be a virgin past a certain age, which I would guess is from mid-20s.

For centuries, men and women have faced vastly different attitudes regarding their sexual experiences. This article delves into the societal double standard that scrutinizes male chastity while romanticizing female virginity, aiming to shed light on this persistent issue and encourage more balanced perspectives on sexual purity.

Traditionally, male chastity has been viewed with suspicion or even ridicule. Men who remain virgins are sometimes unfairly labeled as “losers” or “inexperienced.” This is rooted in harmful stereotypes that associate a man’s worth with his sexual conquests, perpetuating a toxic masculinity that encourages promiscuity and objectification. For generations, men have been expected to assert their manhood through sexual exploits, a narrative that needs to be challenged.

On the other hand, female virginity is often celebrated and idealized, grounded in the notion that a woman’s worth lies in her purity. This enduring double standard has deep historical and cultural roots, perpetuating gender inequality and placing undue pressure on women to remain chaste. In doing so, it reinforces the archaic concept that a woman’s primary purpose is to be the guardian of virtue.

The root of this double standard lies in the idea that male sexuality is inherently aggressive, uncontrollable, and competitive, while female sexuality is considered passive, delicate, and in need of protection. This perspective contributes to the damaging notion that a man’s chastity is a failure, while a woman’s virginity is a prized possession.

But it’s time to challenge these antiquated beliefs. Both men and women should be free to make choices about their own bodies and sexual experiences without fear of judgment. There’s nothing wrong with choosing chastity or celibacy, regardless of your gender.

I personally believe that instead of stigmatizing male virgins, we should applaud their self-control, respect their choices, and promote a more balanced perspective.
Society must recognize that there are countless reasons for an individual’s sexual choices, including personal beliefs, cultural backgrounds, or simply a desire to focus on other aspects of life, such as education, career, or personal growth. It is essential to remember that no one should be pressured into sexual activity, nor should they feel obligated to conform to societal expectations.

The notion that female virginity is more virtuous than male chastity also perpetuates harmful gender roles and expectations. It assumes that women should remain passive and submissive, leaving the power and agency to men in sexual relationships which is ultimately wrong.

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